Happy Earth Day couples...

Happy Earth Day to everyone. I’ve been having a wonderful time researching, reading about, and meeting with several of the vendors I’m going to highlight today. If you have a vendor that you are using and/or if there is a product that you are curious about, ask me. I have no problem doing the research for you, and then providing you with the answers.

Put a ring on it…

While diamonds are considered ‘a girls best friend’, there are tons of options that you should consider. First of all, don’t use diamonds that have been mined in unstable regions of Africa. You don’t want to wear something where the mines are in conflict and cause flooding, water pollution and even the deaths of the miners. For amazing rings you can wear, or ‘re-use’ jewelry/stones from family jewelry to create a new look, check out a company like GreenKarat (www.greenkarat.com). You want the 'bling', then look into different materials like CZ (www.greenearthjewlerly.com), or a wonderful diamond look alike Moissanite (www.moissanite.com). If none of these options tickle your fancy, you can always go north, to Canada. There you can find Canadian Diamonds (did you know they had their own diamonds?) that are safely mined and conflict-free (www.canadianarticdiamond.com).

Lookin’ good…

No matter if it’s a unique design or vintage, I’m sure you’re looking for something that will allow you to shine as brightly as the stars on your wedding day. Finding a designer that uses natural cotton, or silk that is unprocessed can be…well a process. These designers do amazing work, and I'll have full interviews with a few of them soon.

Finding exquisite workmanship and luxurious blends, dresses made with natural fabrics by the Cotton Bride (www.thecottonbride.com) reflect the romance and you may be looking for. Adele Wechsler’s (www.adelewechsler.com/latest/collections.html) gowns (see the picture to the left) create mystery by using innovative sheer overlays and softened edges. Hidden, unexpected organic elements, like the exotic hibiscus, the orchid or delicate pansies and lilies appear as embroidered applications and handcrafted flowers. She also use 'peace and vegan silks', which are amazing!!

If you want to really create a feeling of good will and possibly help someone else in need, why not donate your dress after your wedding? These are just a few organizations that you can consider: The Bridal Garden (www.bridalgarden.org), Brides Against Breast Cancer (www.makingmmories.org), or The I Do Foundation (www.idofoundation.org). You can also use the “I Do” foundation to create a Charity Registry along with your Gift Registry to raise donations without giving up the new toaster oven.

My best advice for the grooms – wear a dark suit and pass on the tux if you wish. If you really want to wear something other than what you own, you know to ‘kick it up a notch’, then you too can rent a suit (trust me you can) or you can go vintage. We'll talk more about alternatives for you soon.

All the other stuff…

We all know that green is the new black, so maybe Facebook, Tweeter, and evite (www.evite.com) are the new ways to share the news with family and friends. Evite has even posted on their site that they, in partnership with BRAVO will donate $1 to the National Audubon Society for each invite sent. I do think that your grandparents will want to have the paper version, so maybe you can save money by ordering invitations for the immediate family and go virtual with everyone else. Hmmm, that’s a thought.

Blogging on your own wedding page, will already have the information and some sites have a RSVP link, so you can track your replies there. The day of your wedding, you can Skype (www.skype.com) or webcast it (ok so you need some real video equipment) for family that can’t attend so they can be a part of the party (well, sort of).

Food should be locally grown where possible, and instead of a lot of flowers, use candles (preferably soy). Instead of giving take-a-way parting gifts, why not do a donation in their honor instead. If you love animals – donate to the ASPCA (www.aspca.org); you feel strongly about cancer – the American Cancer Society (www.cancer.org) among others would be more than happy to receive your donation.

There is so much more I’m going to be sharing with you in the upcoming weeks. I can hardly wait. Until then, I wish you and mother-earth a wonderful day today and always.

Your Bridal Fairy Godmother.

Your own Sex and the City Wedding…almost at Soho House

On a sunny NYC day, I went to a location famous on it’s own, but the second I walked through the doors the “Sex and the city” theme played in my mind. I can’t believe that I’m going to be in the same space, as ‘the girls’. I’m not star-struck, but I was completely blown away by the beautiful interior and warmth that exuded from the place with the ‘pool on the roof’ better known as Soho House.

The moment Claire, Event Director at Soho House New York, and I spoke, I was put at ease. She was truly gracious to work around my crazy schedule and she made me feel like a star. Over tea we had time to discuss why Soho House might be a great location for a wedding, and more importantly, who has been asking about it lately.

What would it be like to be a bride at Soho House?

I want to stress to your couples while a lot of places tell you you’re special, we show you. I think if a woman was to be a Soho House bride; she would definitely feel special and be given the ultimate ‘star’ treatment. We do go the extra step simply because we are honored to be a part of the beginning of their lives together. This is a day to remember. Soho House is simply a place where we strive for quality vs. quantity. Although we have a small boutique hotel here, we are private a members-club and the members treat the 'House' as a home away from home. It is a creative and energetic think tank by day and a place to play at night.

Can you describe the ‘Soho House’ Bride’?

She is sophisticated, modern but also a bit ‘edgy’, mixed with a little rock n’ roll. It’s the woman that’s in her late 20’s to late 30’s who really knows who she is. Someone who is looking to have an imitate day with family and great friends. We see a lot of second-time brides too. She may be the woman who’s already “been there and done the 200+ guests” and is looking for something that is more her. She no longer has to ‘please’ others and this ceremony is for her and her finance.

The Space is so beautiful, where would we have the actual party and can the bride have her ceremony here as well?

We have facilitated a few ceremonies here but more often than not, couples are married off-site and come to have their reception and spend the night in one of our amazing hotel suites. This is a place where the couple and their guests can just have a great time.

Tell me about the spaces?

The White room can hold 50 people for cocktails and we would transform the Library for a seated dinner and dancing for 50-80 people if that’s what the couple wanted. We try to be as flexible as possible - to really tailor to the couples needs. There is also our wonderful spa, Cowshed. It’s perfect for brides who stays in the Hotel, to get fully pampered before their big moment – also for bridesmaids and mother’s of the bride!

And the famous pool?

Well, this is available for a small cocktail hour for our members only before a dinner in the Library. We do this on Sundays, Mondays and Tuesdays only.

Do you find any day of the week to be better for a wedding?

We are an all year round location – we never close! So if a couple wants to get married on a Tuesday in November, we can do that! Recently we had a cocktail reception on a Thursday at 5:00pm, and it was simply lovely. I think today’s brides (with the help of the economy) are looking for smaller receptions but still ones with flare and style and that is what we provide.

So does the price at Soho House change if it’s a weekday vs. a weekend?

As I mentioned we are a members-club, so we have 2 prices – members and non-members. We don’t have ‘canned’ wedding packages because we don’t have ‘canned couples'. If a couple wants something, we will do what we can to make it happen – we like to work with a ‘can do’ ethos at Soho House – but equally, we won’t make promises we can’t keep. Pricing really depends on the couples needs – not the day of the week.

So tell me…who is asking about this location?

This week I had 2 grooms, separately - without their brides ask about the space. It was the first time that’s happened. It was so wonderful to see grooms being interested and taking an active part in looking for a space to have their reception. It was great to work with them.

I know that membership has it’s privileges, and so did 'Samantha'. Soho House is an amazing venue and if you want the star treatment, this just might be the place for you. Unlike Samantha, you and your guests are invited.

For more info: Soho House New York 29-35 Ninth Ave NYC - 212.627.9800 http://www.sohohouseny.com

Wearing Museum grade jewelry on your wedding day

Have you started looking for bridal party gifts yet? You know a little something for your girls – perhaps for the groomsmen? I’ve met Fatima Fidan the sales and marketing coordinator of GeoArt By Cynthia Gale. If you don’t know this company, there are so many reasons you should. They will be having a massive sale beginning TODAY April 20th thru the 24th from 10:00am to 6:00pm. You can use this time to pick up some things for your girls, or shop early for Mother’s day…and don’t forget to pick-up something for your future mother-in-law.

The following are recommendations from Fatima:

Based on the color theme that a bride might have for her wedding, she could buy each of her bridesmaids a silver/gold birthstone bead that is a beautiful personalized gift for each girl. If the beads are not the brides’ style of gift, we have floral pendants that represent various flowers for each month. This would be great if she was doing an outdoor wedding too! We also have beautiful birthstone earrings and bracelets with charms.

For a bride, looking for a great gift for her future husband or if he is looking for a gift for his groomsmen, we have a wide selection of cufflinks and my favorite are the ones that you can insert a picture in. How cute would it be if the bride bought her husband a pair with a picture of them in each frame?

Finally, we have also designed bookmarks for Barnes and Noble and one of our designs was an etched Cherry Blossom with the word Beauty and the kanji symbol for beauty on pink cording. The cherry blossom is after all, a very popular flower in Asian weddings. It symbolizes new beginnings!

I asked Fatima if GeoArt has any pieces that are considered ‘environmentally friendly’ and they do.

At the sale, there will be some of the recycled green jewelry there, mainly bracelets. There are also offering batik bangles; first come, first serve. With a variety of other bangles that are filled with antique batik fabrics, some with dried leaf from the rain-forests of Indonesia, banana tree bark and even one style that has sand from Bali set in it you’re sure to find something you like.

I’m hoping that if you are in the market to find a unique gift for your bridesmaids, or groomsmen, check out their sale. Maybe I’ll see you there.

Always determined to bring you the most interesting options for your wedding.

Until next time…

For more info: Remember this is a great opportunity to buy things up to 70% off. The sample sale will be at the GeoArt New York Corporate Showroom - 8 East 36th Street, 3rd Floor. or visit their website - http://www.geoartnyc.com

Bridal Events, Sales and more

There are the events for this week. There are a lot of them and some begin TOMORROW, that's why I'm posting on a Sunday....

GEOART BY CYNTHIA GALE SPRING SAMPLE SALE!!!!
Where: 8 East 36th St., 3rd Floor (Between 5th and Madison)
When: April 20th – 24th, 2009
Hours: 10am – 6pm
Payment: CASH preferred
10% discount on cash purchase over $100.00
All major Credit Cards accepted on purchases over $50.00

Yes, I know I'm supposed to give you bridal fashion...and here it is. New Trunk shows for this week. As always, remember to call the salon to make sure there are no changes to the date or designer.

Bridal Salon on Five at Saks Fifth Avenue - 212.940.2269
Tomasina - -April 23 - 25
Angel Sanchez - - April 30 – May 2

Mark Ingram Bridal Atelier
Elizabeth Fillmore Trunk Show - - April 23 - 25
Oscar de le Renta Trunk Show - - April 27 - May 2

Bergdorf Goodman – 212.872.8957
Peter Langner - - April 24-25

Temperley London & Friends Invite You to a bridal open house http://www.temperleylondon.com/
Meet with NYC Luxury Wedding Professionals and possibly find the dress of your dreams
Saturday, April 25, 2009 - 10am-6pm Temperley London Boutique - 453 Broome Street, 2nd Floor, NYC
At this event Temperley will be showing their newly launched made-to-Order & Off-the-Peg bridal collections. There will also be vendors from: La Perla Intimates, Ron Ben-Israel Cakes, Mr. Boddington's stationery, Thom James Flowers
RSVP Krystina Banahasky at 212.219.2929 KrystinaB@temperleylondon.com

If you are still looking for your invitations then check out the latest Spring Bridal Events at Papyrus April 24th, 25th, 26th- An intimate opportunity to speak with local Wedding Planners, Florists, Photographers, Confectioners and more.
42nd Street · April 24th 3:00 – 7:00 pm
Grand Central · April 24th 3:00 – 7:00 pm
Lexington Avenue · April 26th 12:00 – 6:00 pm
SoHo · April 26th 12:00 – 6:00 pm
Third Avenue · April 26th 12:00 – 6:00 pm

http://www.papyrusonline.com/category/id/102301.do

Grooms, take your number one girl out - that's MOM in case you were wondering

Guys, I want you to do something for me. This week, make a date with the number one girl in your life. Nope…not the future Mrs., the original Mrs. in your life – your mom. Now I’m sure I’m getting mixed reaction here. Trust me, if you do this, you will create a memory that she will hold as dear as the first time she held you in her arms.

Lunch or dinner, maybe a movie, or even a burger and a beer; just some time with her – just the two of you during your engagement. Sometimes I think it’s you the grooms, as well as the MOG (mother of the groom) that may feel a bit left out. All the fuss seems to be around the bride, and that’s fine. More than that, if you have a relationship with your mom (no matter if it’s your mom, grandmother, step-mother, foster mother or other mother-figure) she sees the man that you are, but her heart see the little boy you were.

Recently, I had an opportunity to spend time with my own family. They are a good crew and we are a very close family. We have as much fun around the dinner table as we do watching a movie or the basketball game. I watch the way my own father dotes on me, and my mom dotes on my brother. It’s both funny and sweet. I know that my brother and I both try to spend ‘alone time’ with our respective parent (me – a total daddy’s girl…yes love mom tons too, but dad and I are both just silly together - we play phone tag during the NBA playoffs and Dancing with the Stars). It got me thinking about being a parent and what my own expectations will someday be.

I don’t have a child…yet…but I’m sure of one thing. There is an enigmatic relationship between mother and son. Yes father and daughter too, but that’s another article. You may not realize it and no matter how much your mom likes, dare I say loves your fiancée, she is quickly having to come to terms with the fact that she won’t be your number one girl anymore. It’s a time with a lot going on and your mom may feel a bit left out. Even more so once you are pronounced, husband and wife.

If you think I’m kidding, tell your mom you want to have a date with her, and watch her face light up. A mom won’t necessarily tell you this is how she feels – so I will. That’s my job right?

You are her son, her pride and joy. No matter if you are first born or the 19th child she has. You are the one that has given her both joy and frustration. She wouldn't change a thing, so trust me on your wedding day, she will have feelings as mixed as the father of the bride. She gave you life, helped shape you into the man you are and while she knows you love her, why not take some time to show her - now. Spend a day – just the two of you. Focus on her, do something, anything or nothing special at all. Make this your own special “Mother’s Day”, and maybe you can make it your own yearly ritual.

I want you to remember, you may one day be a dad…and won’t you want that one last ‘special’ day just you and your little girl? Creating a day for your mom when she isn’t expecting it ,will be something that she will forever hold close to her heart. After all you are that to her…her pride and joy, her heart.

Love to you,
Your Bridal Fairy-Godmother.

The ‘New Rules of Registering’ - at Bloomingdales

I’ve mentioned a few places where you can and/or should consider having your bridal registry. Today, I want to add to the list. While you may know that large stores have registered, Bloomingdale’s Directory of Registry Joanna Kartalis wants you to know why she would love to have you experience ‘the new rules of registering’.

Joanna I know you are in one of the busiest times of the year at the store and especially at the registry, so thank you for your time. Ok, let’s get straight to it. What are the 'hot pieces' that people are putting on their registry this year and what do you think they can pass on?

The ‘New Rules of Registering’ means there are no essentials! This is your chance to design your home to be a reflection of your style as a couple.

More and more, we are seeing couples mixing and matching their table settings. Gone are the days of using one formal place setting every time you set your table. The New Rules of the Registry is all about breaking the old rules and creating a table that reflects your own style and the way you entertain. Change the look of your china for each type of event by using a different charger or colorful accent plates.

• Decorative pieces like vases and bowls accessorize your furniture, like jewelry does for your wardrobe. Lighting like votives, candlesticks, pillar candles and hurricanes truly pull the look together and set the mood whether you're entertaining or in for a cozy night at home.
• If you love family photos, register for a selection of frames that are both interesting and work with your decor.
• Remember that your guests will want to give you items that you love, so register for a variety of price points so that your guests have lots to choose from!
• Couples today are different than their parents – many are more mature and established in their careers and/or lifestyles when they wed. Others are just starting out and need the basics. The important thing is that the couple chooses gifts that will work for THEIR lifestyle.

The registry is about more than the wedding bliss – it’s about accumulating the things that will help you live the good life – everyday.

What are busiest times of the year that you see the spike in bridal registries?

You’re right Lisa, this is a very busy time at the registry. We find that there is a spike right after the holidays - when engagements are most common. We see our biggest volume in January, February and March. June and September are also popular months.

So when and what should they register for?

Couples should register as soon as they get engaged. Many friends and family members will want to start congratulating the couple even before they have announced any specific dates, and they want to be sure that they have the ability to make your gift something special, something you'll always remember, something you truly want!!

Bloomies is more then just a registry, what makes you so special?

Bloomingdale’s is just as excited about your registry as you are! Each couple has their own Registry Consultant, who is like a personal shopper for their home. Our consultants will make sure your experience is stress free and fun, and will help you navigate through the wide assortment of the most fashionable trends in home fashions – from tabletop and house wares to bedding and luggage. You’ll also get exclusive invitations to lots of social events at our stores and online access to manage and update your registry, as well as try out different tabletop combinations via our exclusive online Set Your Table Tool.

And when you’ve calmed down from the excitement of your big day, you can complete your Registry with us by enjoying 10% off any item you did not receive (this special is valid for six months)!

Anything else you want the readers to know about Bloomingdale’s and the people that work there.

The best advice I can give is to make sure you partner with your Registry Consultant. They are your biggest ally and tour guide through this exciting process. Bloomingdale’s Registry Consultants will help you select and combine merchandise in a way that is unique to you – that will fit the way that you live and entertain.

If you are looking to attend another bridal event, Bloomingdales is having a Wedding Party event at 59th Street is April 30, 6-8pm in the registry on the 6th floor. This event is featuring the editor in chief of Brides.com, Michelle Preli, cakes from Ron Ben-Israel, hors d'oeuvres by Great Performances and Staffing 911, plus florals by Magnolia Flowers and Events and music by the Charles Soule Band. If you want to attend, please reply by April 27 to 212-705-3340.

I'll be there and looking for you.

Until next time...

For more info: Bloomingdale's, Inc. 1000 Third Avenue - 6th Floor 212.705.2000
http://bloomingdales.weddingchannel.com/catalog/fds/blmDivisionalHome.action

Bloomingdale's Bridal Completion Program offers the option to purchase the remaining items on your registry at 10% off after your wedding.

Is it (your wedding day) here yet??

It seems like you’ve been planning forEVER doesn’t it and you still have a few months to go before your wedding. Are you at that point where you’re sick of it all? Your fiancée isn’t giving you the help you need and yet he thinks you’ve gone total Bridezilla? Do we even need to speak about your bridal party not helping at all? ARGH!!

Listen, I know money may be tight right now, but let me offer you a bit of god-motherly advice. Take a break from it all. That’s right, close that bridal-binder, don’t look at another color swatch, and dear god don't listen to another band or D.J. Plan a weekend with the person you’re about to marry away from it all. It doesn’t have to be expensive or even a far destination. Just take 2 complete days off to re-group and re-connect. Trust me, it will make all the difference in the world.

Here are some ideas:

• Take a short trip to Boston. Boston is a great walking town and should you find yourself in the Northend, check out Goody Gloover and tell them Lisa from NY sent you. It’s a great Irish pub with great corn beef sandwiches, beer and a great staff. Of course there is Legal Seafood and tons of other places where you can get quick bites. The Public Garden is beautiful and soon the flowers will be in bloom and the ducks in the pond. Check out the Liberty Hotel in Beacon Hill, or of course there is always the Marriott or Westin if you have been collecting points.

• Feeling like south is more your speed – head to DC, where you can check out Georgetown museums, and perhaps you’ll catch a glimpse of the first couple of love, President and Mrs. Obama. Maybe you'll even get a glimps of the new 'first dog'. With the cherry blossoms in bloom, you’ll find more romantic places to walk where floral perfume will fill the air.

• Of course there is always Virginia Beach, Nantucket, Martha Vineyard, or Mystic Conn. Find a bed and breakfast, or small inn where you both can just relax and get away from all the rush of the city. There is always an inexpensive trip to Vegas where you can let lady luck ride on #7. (Oh, let me say keep in mind that if you do go to Vegas you must keep a maximum amount of money you intend to ‘play with’. Remember you do have to pay for a wedding when this fun weekend is over, and you return back home).

• If the idea of getting on a plane, train or automobile make you crazy, there are some great hotel deals right here in the city. Call them direct (not the 800-number) and see if they can offer you a special deal. Remember they need you as much as you need this break. This might also be a great way to check out a hotel you’re thinking of using for your guests - see how they treat you. Hmmmm, I think that’s a great idea.

• Even if you stay in your apartment, put all the bridal stuff away and don’t, repeat DO NOT look at it until your weekend of rest, relaxation and recovery is over. Take in a game, go to the local dive bar you both love, get some take out or get together with your friends (tell them it’s a wedding-free weekend). I’m sure the time not having to listen to your wedding plans will be a welcome change for your friends – no mater how much they love you.

Finally, remember why you fell in love and why you’re getting married. The wedding preparation really can wait. The wedding is just a day. Take 48 hours to remember the ‘why’. It will make all the difference in the world, I promise.

Take a break...your bridal fairy-godmother is here and it's all going to be fine - I promise....

For more info: Liberty Hotel http://www.libertyhotel.com/
215 Charles Street Boston MA 617.224.4000

Goody Glover http://www.goodyglovers.com/home.htm
50 Salem Street – Boston MA 617.367.6444

Legal Seafood http://www.legalseafoods.com
800 Boylston Street (this is in the Prudential Center which is where I go when in Boston, but they have great restaurant locations)
Boston, MA 617.266.6800

A Touch of Miami for your New York wedding

If you are looking for a unique space, centrally located in the heart of midtown, I have a place for you to consider.

The Shoreham is the ideal venue for small gatherings and cocktail receptions. They have hosted engagement, bridal/bachelor parties and weddings year-round, with a heavier emphasis during the spring and fall. It is both sleek and stylish, and offers an alternative to some of the larger venues. This boutique hotel, which is a part of the Willow Hotels LLC group, has a truly ‘hip’ and ‘sexy’ feel to it.
Gina, which actual space would you recommend for either a small party or the wedding ceremony?

The ‘Penthouse Loft Atrium’ for your private party venue has the ability to host as many as 45 guests. With over 800 sq. feet of chic space, it is complemented with a wet bar, small terrace (for your friends that haven’t given up smoking yet) and of course amazing views. Their 1,200 sq-foot gallery features its own private entrance adjacent to the hotel. It may be one of the few times where you won’t have to wait to get past the red-velvet rope, because you and up to 125 guests are the stars.

Sometimes couples want to host their wedding ceremony and event all in one place. Is that possible here and if so, where would it be?

For an intimate wedding ceremony I would recommend the Penthouse, where the bride and groom can overlook midtown Manhattan in a stylish setting.

Gina, what can you tell me about the catering, and anything else you want to share with a bride?

Whatever the couple wants, we can work with them to create a unique event. We offer passed Hors D’oeuvres and plated or buffet Dinner options from a diverse menu. We also offer a one-of-a kind cocktail hour with a special Artisanal Cheese tasting paired with a red, white and sparkling wine. A Fromager (cheese specialist) is present, who acts as host to answer questions guests might have on the cheese and wine pairings.

Finally, can you tell me about the bridal suite? It definitely has WOW factor when you walk through the door.

Our Bridal Suite Penthouse is a spacious One Bedroom Suite with King Bed and separate sitting area with 60” Flat-Panel television. The room also features a large outdoor terrace with glass sliding doors, and all stone bathroom with a 2 person soaking Jacuzzi style-tub and Multi-Head Massage rain shower. This is a perfect place for the happy couple to relax after their world-wind day with a Champagne Toast, mouth-watering chocolate covered strawberries and red rose petals.

So stop by the Shoreham one evening for a cocktail and enjoy a little bit of Miami in midtown.

For more info: Shoreham Hotel, NYC 33 West 55th Street www.shorehamhotel.com/

Feel free to contact Gina Mignon, Director of Catering directly at 917.639.1212

Partying with a purpose

Monique Lhuillier is the featured designer at the annual 2009 Symphony Spring Fashion Show, taking place on Tuesday, April 21, at Schermerhorn Symphony Center in Nashville Tenn. I’m sure there may be some NY brides who are from Nashville – I’m happy to be able to share information about this wonderful event with you.

Well-known for her gorgeous bridal designs and for her stylish line of eveningwear, she will be presenting her new fall line at this event. The fall collection was very much inspired by Ballet Russe – lots of fluid lines, sheer fabrics and luxurious textures, one over another. It’s all about the detail; it’s opulent, but in a quiet and subtle way. In other words this collection is Elegant, Modern, Sophisticated.

Hosted by the Nashville Symphony Orchestra League, the Symphony Spring Fashion show is being presented by Lhuillier and Gus Mayer, a luxury designer clothing store in Nashville. The April 21 event begins with a cocktail reception and silent auction at 6 p.m., followed by the fashion show at 7:15 p.m. and dinner at 8:15 p.m. The 2009 event chairs are Lake Eakin and Lee Ann Ingram.

All proceeds from the Symphony Spring Fashion Show will benefit the Nashville Symphony and the Thor Johnson Scholarship Fund. For more information about the Nashville Symphony Spring Fashion Show, please visit www.nashvillesymphony.org.

If you are interested in attending this event in Nashville, there are more details about the Spring Fashion Show are on the Nashville Symphony’s website: http://www.nashvillesymphony.org/main.taf?p=6,9,2

I know maybe a bit of a way to travel but anytime you can purchase and party for a cause, I'm all for it.

For more info: is Nashville Symphony, Schermerhorn Symphony Center, One Symphony Place, Nashville, TN 37201-2031. The fashion show event contact Amy Jacky, 615.687.6541 - ajacky@nashvillesymphony.org

Grooms lookin' good!

The one thing I know for sure is that every man, no matter what he does for a living, looks amazing in a suit. Put him into a tux and he looks completely polished. Of course, most of you guys don’t have a tux in your weekly clothing rotation. You may not have had one on since your prom. So at this point in time, some of you may be asking, “What looks good and how do you choose?”

The key to a polished look is to get a style that flatters your frame and style. This means you have to know your body type. Don’t be scared to try on a few types until you find the one that feels like “the one” for you.

If you are tall and slim, long and lean then you are lucky!! You can wear just about any type. The longer or extended-length silhouettes look great on you; it doesn’t cut your body in half. I would recommend you wear three or four-button jacket because it will show off your great body. If you choose peak lapels, then it accents your shoulders and makes them look broader. Who doesn’t want to have broader shoulders?

If you are tall, yet considered a big guy, you should go with a two or three-button jacket. If you do have a tummy, please don’t go with a cummerbund. Frankly I don't think anyone should use a cummerbund anymore - it's outdated, moves around when you're dancing and just makes you look bigger. Instead you can ‘hide’ your tummy a bit with a vest, and make sure your pants are roomy so you can shake your groove thing on the dance floor.

Likewise if you are short and wide, you want a look that will be slimming. I would recommend you also stick with the two or three-button jacket, but if you have a lean torso, then show it off with a four-button jacket that fits closer to your body. As for pants, pleats are the best for your body type.

Finally if you are short and slim you should avoid long jackets and don’t go with tie and tails. It will do nothing for you and make you look shorter. You are probably the best candidate for a double-breasted jacket and slim (non-pleated) pants.

Things to remember:
• Shoulders of the jacket should fit squarly on your shoulders and yet be comfortable when you move.
• Jacket sleeves should cover the wrist when you are standing with your hands at your side. The shirt should extend only about an inch beyond that.
• Your shirt collar should have enough extra room for two fingers. You want to be able to breathe - trust me!
• Your pants – please wear them on your waist and not below. Also your pant length should have just a slight break in them. That means the top of your shoe in the front and the top of the heel of your shoe in the back.

No matter what you choose, I’m sure you will look amazing. Just take the time to get to know your body type, try on different suits and styles. A tux not for you, then a new suit jacket and slacks are fine; just find one that gives you the look you want. Remember this is a special day so take it up a notch. We'll discuss clothing again (cuff-links, ties, shoes and all that other stuff). I'm also working with a designer to have a special discussion for those of you getting married on the beach. Please if you have questions about something in particular, ask me.

Before I wish you a happy holiday weekend, I want to say hello to some of my regular groom readers who always look great: Anthony (the lawyer), John (the sports writer), Marco (the teacher). You guys totally rock and I’m so thrilled to have you as readers and thanks for telling your future wives about me as well. I appreciate your support and look forward to seeing you again.

If you want to speak with me directly, send me your question: bridalease@gmail.com

Until next time...

Top 10 things every bride and groom should do.

You will be amazed that ideas will now seem to come from everywhere. Before you run out and put a deposit on the first band you hear, take a breath. Next as a couple, talk about what matters most. Do you want a massive party? Is most popular swing band in town a must? Do you want a 24 piece-tasting menu or is photography, capturing the day the most important?

Here are 10 things that you should have on your 'budget to-do list and if you do these, your life will be much easier.

1 - Establish three or four things that are important and from a budgetary prospective, and number them. This way when another 'great idea' pops up, you can see if it fits in your most important list and you can adjust if you have to.

2 - Talk to your partner about your budget. In this day and age, more and more couples are either getting married a bit older and/or the parents can't afford the blowout that they might have in the past. Set a realistic budget and be honest about what you can pay for. This is supposed to first day of your lives, not the first day of you in the poor house.

3 - Go to your local office supply company and buy a pocketed envelope folder that will hold all of your bills and contracts. If a regular binder is more your cup of tea, then also purchase the clear pockets and tabs, which you will lable for quick location and easy access. You will now have all in one place, all necessary information from your choosen vendors as well as your contracts. If you keep everything in one place, the less likely it is anything will be lost.

4 - Things happen; you know this so be prepared. Create an emergency fund - about 10% of your total wedding budget. This will be here to cover unplanned expenses. Look at it this way, if you don't need it, the extra can go back in the back which is always a great start to a marriage. Or you could use it for an extra special night on your honeymoon. I opt for the former.

5 - Control, Control, Control. I know you're excited, but please control yourself. You'll be surprised that what you wouldn't normally give a second glance to suddenly becomes the thing you absolutely must have. This is the quickest way to blow your budget. Just don't do it.

6 - Don't go with the first vendor you see. Do your homework and shop around. You may be surprised at the bargains you can find. Don't forget to ask what comes with their price and see if they are willing to make adjustments to their packages.

7- Ask for help if you need it. This includes asking you, my favorite grooms. Your job didn't stop at giving her the ring. This is your day as well and I'm sure your bride will be thrilled if you offer to help. Help with the bridal registry today and have a less stressed out bride tomorrow. See, everyone wins.

8 - Schedule it and stick to it. Write it down and remember, "money is time, and time is money."

9 - When you decide to shop for your dress, you should only have one or two people with you on any given time. This is not the time where "the more the merrier". This is an example of too many cooks making you crazy. Of course when you do your fittings, if you want to make it a party with your girlfriends, then by all means.

Finally

10 - Read the fine print and know what you're getting. It may take a bit longer but you must read the contract and then read it again before you sign it. Remember once it's signed you can't say you didn't know.

If you follow these steps, you'll be well on your way to a stress free day. Good Luck!

Until next time...

Events a few days early...

Happy Easter or Passover to you who celebrate.

You know I usually post events on Saturday, but this is a special weekend and there are some events that start tomorrow, that I wanted to remind you about.

Finding new experiences for you is one of the things I love to do. Recently I came across “Cupcakes and Tea at the Ritz”. Sure enough it was an amazing treat. If you have the opportunity you can take a break from shopping, your Easter bonnet stroll down 5th Avenue, or celebrating Passover or Easter this weekend, try it. For $25 dollars you get your choice of tea (or non-alcoholic drink) and a selection of 5…yes 5-gourmet cupcakes. Did I hear you say yummmm? To make reservations, call the Star Lounge at the Ritz hotel, 212.521.6125. It’s not a ‘proper tea’, but a sweet break every weekend from now until June 28.

Now Ladies and yes you too Gents, if you are loving your wedding planning and think you would like to do this as either a full-time or part-time job, I have just been sent some interesting information from a great company. ‘So...You Want to Be a Wedding Planner’, is a one-day seminar taking place on Saturday, May 2 designed to train those interested in becoming a wedding planner. It covers all the topics including vendor research, wedding etiquette, business development and so much more. You’ll receive a complete course manual and receive a letter of achievement at the days end. While there are courses that will certify you as a wedding planner, I think this is a great way to ‘test the waters’.

Bergdorf Goodman
Jenny Lee - - April 10-11
Oscar De La Renta - - April 17-18

Amsale Flagship Salon - - April 10-11

Saks Fifth Avenue
Monique Lhuillier - - April 16 -18

The Atelier – Mark Ingram
Junko Yoshioka - - April 16-18

Vera Wang Flagship Salon - - April 16- 25

Next week there will be more dresses, interveiws and perhaps...a "sex in the city like" wedding. Once again I wish those of you that celebrate a wonderful holiday.

Until next time...

The Mansfield Hotel equals charm and sophistication for your wedding

If you are thinking “Old New York charm” then look no further. The Mansfield Hotel located in midtown offers charm that is a throwback to the turn of the century and the social “elite”, including the Vanderbilts and Whitneys. Constructed in the popular Beaux Arts style, the Mansfield was originally built as a hostelry for wealthy bachelors and socialites. Notables such as painter John Butler Yeats, Maz von Gurach, who was believed to be the inspiration for Jay Gatsby, and F. Scott’s Fitzgerald’s “The Great Gatsby,” have resided at the Mansfield. With a working fireplace, high ceiling and brownstone feel, you will be transported back to the time when gentlemen were gentlemen and ladies were ladies. This is a perfect location for a small event no matter your theme.

The Mansfield Club Room is for small upscale wedding ceremonies up to 20 guests. This room is intimate and cozy. Across the lobby the M Bar can be reconfigured for a wedding reception, shower or engagement party up to 75 guests. Sadly there isn’t enough room for dancing. Don’t let that discourage you from considering this beautiful location.

So you’re saying 'of all the places in the city, why here?' What could they possibly offer that would make me consider this space? The Penthouse blew me away.

The Mansfield Renwick Duplex is a stunning two-story loft that boasts 18-foot floor to ceiling windows and original European-style architecture. Situated on a private floor and equipped with a hi-fi entertainment system featuring theatre surround audio and three Flat-Panel televisions, this swank space is perfect for a reception up to 30 guests.

When your guests leave there is a Jacuzzi Room with sunken bathtub, lofted bedroom with sliding silhouette doors and motorized retractable Flat-Panel LCD that is just for you. I promise you, you won’t want to leave. It’s as if you walk into your own duplex apartment and the rest of the world fades away.

If you have time you should stop by any Tues–Thurs, 7:00-10:00pm, where you can hear live Jazz and try their signature Violet’s Blueberry Martini. Consider some of their special package deals such as “Dames Take Manhattan”, “Picture New York”, or contact Ms. Gina Mignon the Director of Catering to create your own dream package. She is a wonderful asset to this hotel property and is looking forward to helping couples make their dream come true.

If you’re looking for a place to have a smaller wedding event, engagement party, ladies or gents party, or even mini-honeymoon, consider the Mansfield. This is where a rich past-history will help create an even richer history-future that you will build together.

For more info: Mansfield Hotel - 12 W 44th St
New York, NY 10036
(212) 277-8700
www.mansfieldhotel.com
or call Gina Mignon directly at 917.630.1212

Bridal trunk shows, dresses and designers

Oh…so many events are coming so mark your calendar…

This is a list of upcoming bridal trunk shows for April. I would seriously advise you to call for an appointment (but if you just decided to show up…I don’t think they would turn you away) so you can have the most personalized experience. I’ve met several of you at past shows and look forward to meeting more of you. Please tell me about your experience at these shows. OH…while I know you’re excited at looking at gowns, and actually may find ‘the one’, don’t be pressured to buy it if you’re not 1000000% sure. I promise you if it’s your gown, you will know. Also remember that several of these designers have multiple shows, so if you see it, and want to ‘think about it’, there may be another opportunity to see if again at a different time. Think of this as an investment so choose wisely.

Saks Fifth Avenue
Monique Lhuillier - - April 16 -18 http://www.moniquelhuillier.com/
Tomasina - - April 23 – 25 http://www.tomasina.com/collections.html
Angel Sanchez - - April 30 – May 2
http://www.angelsanchezusa.com/bridal_1.php

Bergdorf Goodman
Jenny Lee - - April 10-11 http://www.jennyleebridal.com/root.html
Oscar De La Renta - - April 17-18 http://www.oscardelarenta.com/?folderId=/collections/bridal/
Peter Langner - - April 24-25 http://www.peterlangner.com/home.aspx
(Mark your calendar Bergdorf will have a Sample Sale (read: DEEPLY DISCOUNTED DRESSES)– July 25-31)

The Atelier – Mark Ingram
Junko Yoshioka - - April 16 – 18 http://www.junkoyoshioka.com/
Elizabeth Fillmore - - April 23-25 http://www.elizabethfillmorebridal.com/
Oscar de le Renta - - April 27-May 2 http://www.oscardelarenta.com/?folderId=/collections/bridal/

Amsale Flagship Salon - - April 10-11
http://www.amsale.com/bridal/index.shtml

Vera Wang Flagship Salon - - April 16 - 25
http://www.verawangonweddings.com/fashion/Gown_Gallery.aspx

For more information and to make your appointment please contact the stores directly. Also keep in mind that shows and collections may change to call to verify your designer will be showing that day.

Saks Fifth Avenue
611 Fifth Avenue (at 50th Street) - 6th Fl
212-753-4000

Bergdorf Goodman
754 5th Ave - 7th Fl
212-753-7300

Mark Ingram Bridal Atelier
110 East 55th Street – 8th Fl
212-319-6778

Amsale Boutique
625 Madison Avenue
New York, NY 10022
212.583.1700

Vera Wang Bridal House
991 Madison Ave
212-628-3400

Tonight event - sorry for the last second info....

Guys..and Girls…I know totally last minute but I couldn’t resist.

I just heard from folks at Trump…yes as in “the Donald’s place” that his location at 725 5th Avenue (Trump Tower) will be hosting am NCAA event tonight… YOU MUST GO!! You can watch the final game of the season

Why go??
Sliders - $1.00
Wings - .25Cents
Pizza - $5.00
Beer - $5.00

How can you beat that after a day of shopping for your loved one?? If you want to gather the strength to propose…or just want to see the outcome of the UNC vs Michigan State game…all the fun starts at @8:00pm TONIGHT – April 6, 2009.

I’ll be there for a while, so stop by and say hello!!

Always looking for fun for you my lovely couples…
Your fairy bridal Godmother…

For more info: See you at Trump Plaza - 725 5th Avenue. You can enter at 5th ave between 56-57th Street or the side enterance on 56th Street. www.trumpgrill.com

Earth friendly wedding ideas

While you may not be able to use each and everyone of these ideas, you may be able to tie them in. If every bride just made one change it could make a big difference to the environment. I'm here just offer suggestions and an opportunity for each of you to save the planet.

• Go for an organic theme flowing with layers of textures, herbal and earth tones. This will create a relaxed yet elegant atmosphere.
• Table linens can be made from softened burlap or natural cotton. I'm looking for a company now that can offer this service to you. If you know of one, please send it to me so I can share it.
• Flowers in season (wildflowers, sunflowers, roses) will save not only the planet, but your pocketbook. Remember if they aren't in season, you have to pay to have them flown in just for your day. You could also use green topiaries, live plants, or river stones as decoration on your tables.
• Use pumpkin and gourds in the fall to decorate from local farms or the farmers market. Fruit not only make a great centerpiece, but can also be dessert.
• Save energy by using reduced electricity, energy efficient lights, LED’s or rely on candlelight and lanterns. This will create a warm romantic glow.
• Where possible use natural light and air. If you have a morning or afternoon celebration try to choose a space that has a lot of it’s own light (windows where lots of sun can come through). If you have your event out doors you will eliminate the use of air conditioning.
• After your wedding, plant a tree to honor your new life together. The Nature Conservancy says that for $1,600 the organization "Trees Instead" will plant a lifetime of trees (approx 1,000) to offset the average couple's lifetime carbon footprint. You can also purchase an engagement tree, planted in celebration of the promise of love. No matter which you choose, a tree will be planted in your selected US State, Israel or Africa. You will receive an elegant Tree Certificate, with your Name and the tree number so you can find the tree location on-line. “As the love grow, so will the tree”.
• Donate any left over food to a local food kitchen. You have to call and check their regulations and requirements first.

I know that you all are doing what you can to save the environment and I think it's great! For more information on "Green Wedding Favors by Trees Instead" go to: www.treesinstead.com/Green_Wedding_Favors_gif.html

Until next time…

The grooms’ cast

I want to thank so many of you my GREAT GROOMS for reading this, and for passing the column along to your future wife. I'm working on something for you that is sooo special...well, hopefully I'll have more information for you next week. Thanks for reading and keep sending me your questions.

I know you thought the hard part was over right? Proposing will seem like a walk in the park, when it comes to choosing your best man and all the other members of your supporting cast.

You’re thinking…’no big deal’ right – WRONG! Trust me when I say that the men that stand up with you on that day, how they act, their toast and how seriously they take this honor, will have a long lasting impact on your future relationship. Believe me, your fiancée won’t want the guy who told crude jokes to come around often and if you have to pick between them, I would hope you would choose her.

Unlike your bride to be, your best man probably won’t be your best friend. It's more likely your brother, a cousin, perhaps even your father. Who ever you choose, this person should be someone you consider very close to you, because they are there to help you with all duties that are wedding related.

Next to you, the best man is a high-profile person in the wedding. He traditionally makes the toast, but also is there to keep you calm in what may be in some scary moments before you say, “I Do”. So this should be someone you can rely on to offer support or even a joke or two to help you relax. With that said, there is a caveat…if your best friend happens to be a woman (check with your significant other but) she can be included as a grooms-person. Ok, so that's not the official title, but you get the idea. She will probably wear a dress (but can do a tux if she chooses), and will stand up with you and uphold the same responsibilities. There is no formal way to ask a person, so choose your own style. If it’s over a few beers, or if you take them out to dinner, make sure your cast know that this is as important to your fiancée as it is to you.

The rest of your supporting cast – the groomsmen:

There is no hard and fast rule that there has to be the same number of groomsmen to bridesmaids. As a matter of fact, I don’t know many men that wouldn’t like to have a beautiful woman on each arm.

You can avoid hurting someone’s feelings by assigning another honorary task. They can do a reading at the ceremony, or serve as an usher.

Above all, make sure that the person that stands up for you is someone that you are confident it, will be there for you both, that day and throughout your marriage. Next week, is lookin' good, and so are you.

Until next time…

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Eco-Couture green gowns are white-hot!

Made with exquisite workmanship and replete with subtle details, The Cotton Bride is a couture bridal collection for the lifestyles, interests and priorities of a new age. A luxurious blend of simplicity and sophistication, each gown in the collection is made from natural fabrics and designed to reflect a romantic and youthful spirit of grace, comfort and beauty. The purity, airiness and ease of the fabrics used in the collection are chosen for a modern aesthetic that is cool, light and relaxed.

I had the pleasure to speak with the designer Chris Kole, about his designs and why this type of collection is so important.

Chris, I know you’re swamped so I really appreciate you taking time to speak with me about your collection. Can you tell me when a bride is looking for an environmentally friendly gown, what are they really looking for?

The type of brides that come to us place a large importance on the fabric used in our gowns. Natural fabrics are very important to our brides and most order their gowns in the cotton and linen fabrics we use in the collection. In rare cases, some brides ask us to use silk instead but in these cases, it is usually because the bride has met with some resistance to using a non-traditional fabric from her mother, grandmother or other close family member.

We have also noticed a strong trend towards delicate laces and vintage looks. There is also seen an increase in the number of brides asking for shorter bridal dresses - be it cocktail length or T-length. In these cases, the brides are usually destination brides planning weddings in an outdoor setting.

I know being Eco-friendly is hot right now, are you seeing a spike in your business because of the trend or is it year round?

We have a large spike in the first three months of the year, and that could be because of holiday engagements. Another interesting fact is that we find that Tuesdays are consistently the day we receive the most amount of visitors to our website.

What other ways can a bride be more 'environmentally friendly’?

Nowadays, a bride who is interested in being environmentally friendly has many options available to her at every step of the bridal planning process. From organic paper invitations to eco-friendly honeymoon destinations, all a bride needs to do is to do a search on the internet, or look to your site and countless options and ideas will come up.

If a bride wanted a dress in your collection, how long does it take to create a dress and what are your price ranges?

Typically, we ask for a minimum lead-time of 8 - 12 weeks. However, as all our dresses are hand-sewn right here in our own work studios in New York, we have a great deal of control over production; if a bride needs her gown sooner, we can usually accommodate her request. Prices for our gowns range from about $1500 - $4500 with most falling between $2K - $3K.

Thanks Chris for your great information I’m sure my brides really appreciate it.

If you have any questions about Chris Kole’s designs take a look at his bridal collection. Chris also has a ready-to-wear and custom Evening & Special Occasion dresses. Finally, know that his client list is a veritable who’s who of American Society and includes individuals as diverse as Secretary of State-Hillary Clinton, legendary jazz singer Nancy Wilson, celebrity actress Ali Landry, TV personality Mary Hart, socialite Melania Knauss-Trump and Grammy award winner Jill Scott.

For more info: Crisada Inc.
39-13 23rd Street
Long Island City, NY 11101
T - (718) 729-9730
F - (718) 729-9740
www.chriskole.com
www.thecottonbride.com

Merging customs, traditions and lives

You have your budget completed, location confirmed and now the fun of planning what kind of day you’re going to have truly begins. While I’ll share more customs with you as we move forward, here are a few of my favorites. Remember to bring a bit of your own rich family past to your new family future.

If your family is from the Caribbean…
A rich, black rum cake is in your future. Some call it rum cake others a black cake because of it’s shape, deep color and density. Fruits soaked in rum for weeks before it’s baked with dark brown sugar, butter and most of all…love. The bridal recipe is one that is often passed from generation to generation, but if you want small ones to give as gifts, Tortuga Rum Co., have some of the best cakes around. http://www.tortugarumcakes.com/

If your family is from England…
Traditionally your entire bridal party walks together to the church with your flower girl tossing flowers along your path to ensure a life filled with happiness and laden wth flowers. If you can’t walk to the church, how about having your entire family walking you down the isle. It truly can be a special moment, as well as helping to keep your dad’s ‘stiff upper lip.’

If your family is from Greece…
You both are crowned with stefana, which is a wreath of flowers made of flowers tied together with flowers. The crown of flowers is to resemble those worn by royalty and the sanctity of marriage by the church. To add sweetness to the day, the bride carries a lump of sugar in her glove on the wedding day. While I know some of you may not wear gloves or have sweaty palms…you may want to just use a sugar packet.

If your family is from Morocco…
Moroccan weddings are a musical event from start to finish, with lots of singing and dancing. Men usually wear one of their best suits. Women and female friends of bride have a party where the bride performs a sort of a “milk bath” to "purify" her before her wedding day. They also help her dress in a richly decorated wedding kaftan (usually white), adorn her with heavy jewelry, and beautify and darken her eyes with kohl.

If your family is from Mexico…
There will be a very large rosary, called a lasso, used by the priest to tie the hands of the bride and groom as they recite their vows. The thought is to show the union and protection of their marriage.

So no matter what your custom or culture, there is a rich history from which you can pull traditions into your wedding day.