Top 2009 eco-friendly and eco-chic vendors

The cotton bride dream dresses for the bride and momthers

I love the overwhelming response I received when I started eco-Wednesday. You folks ROCK!! It proved that there are couples that are truly committed to making this planet a safer place. You are dedicated to finding vendors who had the same belief in your values and you know what – you have the buying power and boy did it show.

Recently, I’ve been asked to write some articles in an upcoming eco-wedding magazine and I’ve been hard at work gathering information for it. What that means for you – you will have another medium to find the best there is in eco-chic wedding information. Don’t cha’ love it? I do.

Here are some of my favorite eco-friendly folks and know that narrowing it down to these was a really, really tough job. I hope that the people, places and things that I highlight in 2010 will be just as exciting and dedicated to saving our planet.

The Cotton Brideand Adele Wechsler both have couture bridal collections for the lifestyles, interests of today’s eco-chic bride. That means they are fun, flirty and good to the environment.

My Personal Artists - uses of original one-of-a-kind hand-painted / hand-illustrated artwork, to create a lovely keepsake for you and your family.

Milo Paper - colorful, fun, innovative, and spunky are just some of the words that come to mind when you choose Milo Paper.

Creative Custom Card Boxes - When you want something beautiful to collect your wedding envelopes that is truly personalized these unique and eco-friendly boxes are the key.

Aglow Soy Candle - Soy is so good when it comes to lighting your future together. Adding a bit of bling creates something that creates additional sparkle to your special night.

Dogeared Jewels and gifts - Most designers suggest that gems worn on your wedding day, be simple and meaningful. Dogeared meets both requirements along with being super stylish and provides enough styles for the entire bridal party. You will be giving and wearing those good vibes.

Not your bubbies wedding...

Ketubah by Daniel Sroka Designs www.modernketubah.com

I don’t want to portray myself as an expert on all things Jewish, but I do love the beauty, tradition and history when I attend a Jewish wedding. I can appreciate the breaking of the glass, the terrified look while participating in the ‘Hora’ and other traditions that are, well, just for someone of this faith. I wanted to honor this tradition with sharing some wonderful information that I’ve been proud to gather.

What happens when JDate actually works? That was the predicament Sara Marcus found herself in when she first became engaged. While print and online wedding resources abound, she found that none specifically addressed the needs of planning a Jewish wedding. So being enterprising, she created one.

JewishWeddingNetwork.com is for those faced with questions like “Where do I get a ketubah?” “What Jewish traditions should I incorporate in to my wedding?” “And what exactly is the Mezinka Dance?” JewishWeddingNetwork.com is a one-stop resource for Jewish wedding planning needs; from finding vendors, to researching traditions, to connecting with others who are sharing the same experience. You’ll find a group of Jewish brides from Unaffiliated to Orthodox who blog about their wedding planning from engagement to wedding day, vendors, DIY projects and a lot more. What I particularily loved was the beauty of traditions and customs. Everything from AufRuf to Yichud is demystified with straightforward definitions.

“JewishWeddingNetwork.com is the resource I wish I had when I was planning my own wedding,” says Founder Sara Marcus. “It truly fills a void. I believe it will become the premiere destination for couples planning a Jewish wedding.”

There is a wonderful vendor who does the best Ketubahs I’ve ever seen.
Couples from all different religions and cultures have embrace the Jewish wedding tradition and its beauty. I think it’s a wonderful daily reminder of the vows you have made to each other on your wedding.

Daniel Sroka is an artist and designer who creates fine art wedding ketubahs from his collection of abstract photography of nature. While I am not expert in the Jewish Wedding tradition, I do know a work of art when I see one. With one of Daniel’s creations you will have a unique and meaningful daily reminder of your love and promises made. In my opinion they are simply beautiful. As a lover of photography and flowers, I think ModernKetubah.com has some that are truly breathtaking.

I happen to love ModernTribe.com. They are a Judaica and Jewish Gifts Shop that brings modern design to Jewish lives. They also have lists of Wedding contracts, a Jewish registry, guides and tons of great information.

Some of the beautiful articles they have for sale are:

* Ring Bearer Bowl from Paloma's Nest -- specially made for ModernTribe with the Hebrew word "Ahava" which means love.

* DIY Jewish Wedding invitation templates -- modern designs that are customizable and can be printed out at home so brides & grooms can use their own paper, embellishments and have beautiful wedding stationary at a low cost.

I know this is just the very tip of the many sites and blogs that you may have information on. I do happen to have to give a shout out to ‘Not Your Bubbes Kitchen’: http://notyourbubbeskitchen.blogspot.com/ who taught me how to make a proper chicken soup, and my dear Sue and Stuart of ArtDecoDiamonds.com http://www.artdecodiamonds.com/ who have helped me pick out some beautiful bridal bling.

To all my friends of this beautiful faith I say Mazel Tov.
L'Chaim to you all.

For more info: Modern Ketubah : fine art ketubot inspired by nature - modernketubah.com
Daniel Sroka Designs LLC : v/f 866-285-0164
ModernTribe.com
JewishWeddingNetwork.com
Art Deco Diamonds http://www.artdecodiamonds.com/ Toll Free: 1-877-321-3326 (DECO)

If you know of an ethnic group, site, organization or vendor that you think I should profile, let me know.

Picturing your Ketubah in a different way

Modern Ketubah by Daniel Sroka

A gifted photographer can tell a story with a single shot. There are some whose photos take your breath away. This is the kind of person you are looking for to capture those moments at your wedding. Today however, I want to introduce you to a photographer whose unique style changes the traditional ketubah and creates another photographic moment in time.

Modern Ketubah by Daniel Sroka

A ketubah is a work of art that uses images and words to express the love and commitment of your marriage vows. While the ketubah has its roots in the Jewish wedding tradition, its beauty has become embraced by couples from all different religions and cultures. After the wedding, the ketubah is usually hung in a place of honor in the home, and serves as a daily reminder of the vows they have made to each other on their wedding.

Modern Ketubah by Daniel Sroka

Daniel Sroka is an artist and designer who creates fine art wedding ketubahs from his collection of abstract photography of nature. While I am not expert in the Jewish Wedding tradition, I do know a work of art when I see one. With one of Daniel’s creations you will have a unique and meaningful daily reminder of your love and promises made. In my opinion they are simply beautiful.

For more info: Modern Ketubah : fine art ketubot of nature : http://www.modernketubah.com
Daniel Sroka Designs LLC : voicemail/fax 866-285-0164

Alternatives to the same 'ol bachelor party

I know there are some guys that want the ‘traditional’ bachelor party and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, I would like to share with you some alternatives that I'm sure your future bride would love for you to consider.

If you want to have a sophisticated night, then consider these locations:
Brandy Library – This is where the perfect dram of top-shelf libation is for serious drinkers of fine spirits. Their selection is mind-blowing as the bookshelves are stocked with bottles and the sommeliers will help you re-fine your taste buds or at least help you pick out something almost as special as your fiancée.

If you enjoy a good cigar and are looking for a place where you can still smoke:
Carnegie Club – The club has retro wood paneling, and is truly one of the last sanctuaries where you can legally enjoy a smoke. Yes it’s a lounge, but its also a great place just to have a drink with the boys and a good stoggie.

Club Macanudo is another haven of leather chairs and big cigars. Martini, scotch and cigar drinkers unite. A bit more formal than Carnegie, so wear a jacket and experience the moment.

For the sports lover or lover of games:
ESPN Zone - Nothing could be sweeter than the big lounge chair, in your private room watching your favorite team playing your favorite sport. Food, beer and hours of fun. Sounds like a ideal party to me.

If you are looking for sports and a bit of hip-hop flavor:
40/40 Club – This club is the platinum taste of co-owner Jay-Z where there are lots of flat screen TVs, and the perfect cognac lounge upstairs for your private party. You never know what celeb may just pop-in to see where the party’s at.

If you want to be a cowboy in the big city:
Johnny Utah’s – Once you have a few, you can make your way to the mechanical bull. Try your best to ride it or just hang out with some good food, good beer, and good friends.


I hope this list gives you some different ideas on how to celebrate your bachelor party. If you have any unique ideas or suggestions, email me at bridalease@gmail.com and let me know. For more information check them out:

Brandy Library - www.brandylibrary.com
25 N Moore St NYC (212) 226-5545

Carnegie Club - www.hospitalityholdings.com
156 W 56th St NYC (212) 957-9676

Club Macanudo Inc - www.clubmacanudo.com
26 E 63rd St NYC (212) 752-8200

ESPN Zone New York City - www.espnzone.com
4 Times Square Plz NYC (212) 921-3776

The 40/40 Club - www.the4040club.com
6 West 25th Street NYC (212) 832-4040

Johnny Utahs - www.johnnyutahs.com
25 W 51st St NYC (212) 265-8824

Until next time..

Making your wedding more 'symbolic'

Music is usually used, to mark the beginning and end of a wedding ceremony. You may wish to add an opening and closing ritual as well. These rituals provide another way to include special people in the ceremony as honored assistants.

Water Ceremony
In some Native American communities, drinking from a goblet of water sanctifies the union. Water is a basic element, without which there would be no life. A two spouted water jug designed for this purpose may be used. The Wedding Jar is then displayed in the home as a reminder of one's vows.

Water may also be used in a ceremonial washing of hands to purify them, before uniting one's hands in marriage with another person. It's another way of saying "I wash away my past and begin 'clean' with you."

The Wedding Contract
In Biblical times, and in contemporary Judaism, as well, a wedding contract or "ketubah", is signed during the ceremony. Essentially, the contract is a written copy of the wedding vows. In Biblical times, it included the dowry and other family agreements, but contemporary ones are more spiritual/emotional and less practical. There are many on-line sources that offer both traditional and contemporary ketubahs, or you can make your own. Each partner signs the contract during the ceremony, and it is displayed in their home during their marriage.

The Tea Ceremony
Originating in the Orient, the tea ceremony represents a partner (traditionally the bride) honoring her new in-laws. The bride pours tea for the in-laws with a promise to honor them as she does her own family of origin. By serving them tea, she serves and honors their family.

Jumping The Broom
"Jumping the broom" is a charming African-American tradition reminiscent of the historical manner in which couples were united under slavery, when wedding ceremonies were not allowed. Partners jump over a broom to signify their new status as a married couple within their community of friends and family. The broom can be decorated for the wedding day, if you wish.

Breaking The Glass(es)
Another ancient Jewish custom that can be incorporated beautifully into interfaith weddings is the "Breaking of the Glass". At the end of a Jewish wedding, after the pronouncement of the new status as a married couple, the groom traditionally stomps on a wine glass wrapped in a cloth napkin or towel. It is said "Just as it would be impossible to return the glass to its original condition, the lives of the wedding couple are forever changed." The popping noise marks the end of the ceremony and the beginning of the new life together. Immediately afterward, the guests break out into a joyous chorus of "Mazel Tov" (Congratulations).

Circling
In traditional Jewish, Greek Orthodox, and Hindu traditions, there are customs where the bride circles her groom, or both partners circle each other. In the Hindu tradition, both partners circle the sacred fire.

Sand Ceremony
The Sand Ceremony represents the joining of two lives into a new dimension of unity. It is similar to the Unity Candle ceremony. Instead of each partner having their own candle, each partner has a vial of sand which represents their childhood and life before marriage. During the ceremony, each partner pours his or her sand into a larger vial to represent their new status as a married couple. Some couples use two different colors of sand, which make a third color when joined.

Unity Candle
Although this ceremony is not historically Christian, it has become very popular in contemporary Christian and Interfaith weddings. Three candles are placed on the altar. The two side candles are each lit (sometimes by the parents of each partner) representing the individual lives of each partner. The center candle is lit by both partners during the ceremony, signifying their new life together as "One"

The Veiling and Unveiling of the Bride
Traditional American Christian weddings include the unveiling of the bride after the father of the bride escorts her down the aisle and she is "given away" to her groom. The unveiling is reminiscent of the Biblical story of Jacob, Rachel and Leah. Jacob worked for Lavon for seven years to earn the right to marry Lavon's daughter Rachel. When it was time for the wedding, Rachel veiled herself as a sign of modesty, as was popular at the time. Lavon then veiled his other daughter Leah and tricked Jacob into marrying the wrong daughter. Jacob had to work another seven years before Lavon would agree to give him his other daughter Rachel. By unveiling the bride before she exchanges vows, the groom is sure to be marrying the correct woman!

You know the saying, "Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” is a popular rhyme that has been used since Victorian times. The "something old" represents the bond to the bride's family and her old life; "something new" represents the couple's new life together and their future hope for happiness, prosperity and success; "something borrowed" from a happily married woman is meant to impart similar happiness to the bride; and "something blue" represents fidelity and constancy.

No matter what ritual you decide to include use a symbol that is meaningful to you both.

Wedding words, symbols and traditions

Music is usually used, to mark the beginning and end of a wedding ceremony. You may wish to add an opening and closing ritual as well. These rituals provide another way to include special people in the ceremony as honored assistants.

Water Ceremony
In some Native American communities, drinking from a goblet of water sanctifies the union. Water is a basic element, without which there would be no life. A two spouted water jug designed for this purpose may be used. The Wedding Jar is then displayed in the home as a reminder of one's vows.

Water may also be used in a ceremonial washing of hands to purify them, before uniting one's hands in marriage with another person. It's another way of saying "I wash away my past and begin 'clean' with you."

The Wedding Contract
In Biblical times, and in contemporary Judaism, as well, a wedding contract or "ketubah", is signed during the ceremony. Essentially, the contract is a written copy of the wedding vows. In Biblical times, it included the dowry and other family agreements, but contemporary ones are more spiritual/emotional and less practical. There are many on-line sources that offer both traditional and contemporary ketubahs, or you can make your own. Each partner signs the contract during the ceremony, and it is displayed in their home during their marriage.

The Tea Ceremony
Originating in the Orient, the tea ceremony represents a partner (traditionally the bride) honoring her new in-laws. The bride pours tea for the in-laws with a promise to honor them as she does her own family of origin. By serving them tea, she serves and honors their family.

Jumping The Broom
"Jumping the broom" is a charming African-American tradition reminiscent of the historical manner in which couples were united under slavery, when wedding ceremonies were not allowed. Partners jump over a broom to signify their new status as a married couple within their community of friends and family. The broom can be decorated for the wedding day, if you wish.

Breaking The Glass(es)
Another ancient Jewish custom that can be incorporated beautifully into interfaith weddings is the "Breaking of the Glass". At the end of a Jewish wedding, after the pronouncement of the new status as a married couple, the groom traditionally stomps on a wine glass wrapped in a cloth napkin or towel. It is said "Just as it would be impossible to return the glass to its original condition, the lives of the wedding couple are forever changed." The popping noise marks the end of the ceremony and the beginning of the new life together. Immediately afterward, the guests break out into a joyous chorus of "Mazel Tov" (Congratulations).

Circling
In traditional Jewish, Greek Orthodox, and Hindu traditions, there are customs where the bride circles her groom, or both partners circle each other. In the Hindu tradition, both partners circle the sacred fire.

Sand Ceremony
The Sand Ceremony represents the joining of two lives into a new dimension of unity. It is similar to the Unity Candle ceremony. Instead of each partner having their own candle, each partner has a vial of sand which represents their childhood and life before marriage. During the ceremony, each partner pours his or her sand into a larger vial to represent their new status as a married couple. Some couples use two different colors of sand, which make a third color when joined.

Unity Candle
Although this ceremony is not historically Christian, it has become very popular in contemporary Christian and Interfaith weddings. Three candles are placed on the altar. The two side candles are each lit (sometimes by the parents of each partner) representing the individual lives of each partner. The center candle is lit by both partners during the ceremony, signifying their new life together as "One"

The Veiling and Unveiling of the Bride
Traditional American Christian weddings include the unveiling of the bride after the father of the bride escorts her down the aisle and she is "given away" to her groom. The unveiling is reminiscent of the Biblical story of Jacob, Rachel and Leah. Jacob worked for Lavon for seven years to earn the right to marry Lavon's daughter Rachel. When it was time for the wedding, Rachel veiled herself as a sign of modesty, as was popular at the time. Lavon then veiled his other daughter Leah and tricked Jacob into marrying the wrong daughter. Jacob had to work another seven years before Lavon would agree to give him his other daughter Rachel. By unveiling the bride before she exchanges vows, the groom is sure to be marrying the correct woman!

You know the saying, "Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” is a popular rhyme that has been used since Victorian times. The "something old" represents the bond to the bride's family and her old life; "something new" represents the couple's new life together and their future hope for happiness, prosperity and success; "something borrowed" from a happily married woman is meant to impart similar happiness to the bride; and "something blue" represents fidelity and constancy.

No matter what ritual you decide to include use a symbol that is meaningful to you both.

Your wedding day - top 8 things to remember

The day is almost here. You’ve double, tripled checked everything. You are feeling good that your final count is done and vendors know where they need to be, when and where. So now, you think you can relax and just enjoy the fruit of your labor right? Not so fast. These are just a few things to think about now so you won’t have to worry about them later.

1 – Did you pay everyone?
Make sure that you have written all your final payment checks out a few days before your wedding and give them to your wedding coordinator, or your parents so they can make sure they are handed out the day of your wedding. This is not your job to handle, because at that point, you deserve to have fun.

2 – Who dresses you?
If you are one of my brides that has a ball gown or dress that bustles – make sure that someone knows how to do it. This is the one time - if no other to bring someone to your final fiting to pratice it. Why then, because you won’t want to put on your dress before your wedding and should it get dirty at the final fitting, it will be cleaned and presented to you fresh. There is nothing like having to drag around 4lbs. of material, because your maid of honor doesn’t know how to do it. Hmmm, now that I think of it, you can wear your wedding dress to have your photo's taken and perhaps the first dance, then change into something short and dance worthy if you like.

3 – Food, glorious food.
No matter what you think, you will not sit down and eat. I know you will try, but with you wanting to say ‘hi’ to everyone, taking pictures and of course dancing, you will forget. Have your wedding coordinator, best man or maid of honor feed you hors d’oeuvres and keep your glass full during the cocktail hour. I would also strongly recommend that you ask for a plate of food be put aside for you so you can eat when you get back to your honeymoon suite. Believe me at the end of the night, you will realize just how hungry you are and do you really want to hit McDonalds after spending all that money? I didn’t think so.

4 – Your bridal suite.
If you have a large bridal party, they will all want to crash in your room to change clothes. While it might be fun at the beginning of the day, at the end you will want some time to unwind. There is nothing like going back to your honeymoon suite to have your entire bridal party, partying when all you may want to do is sleep. If you can, get a separate room just for your changing with the girls. This way after your reception it's clean, quiet and you and your honey can truly relax. Of course if you don’t care about that, then disregard.

5 – Packing.
You’ve already packed your suitcase so this isn’t something you have to worry about. Let me say it again...if at all possible at least two weeks before your wedding (earlier if you can), pack what you need for your honeymoon. Leave your suitcase at the ready so this is one thing you won't have to worry about, days before the wedding when you will have other things to do. Believe me, there is nothing like getting to your honeymoon and realizing you forgot something (extra contact lenses, a tooth brush or paste, 1 shoe - I could go on)!! Also, make sure after your wedding that your best man has the grooms tux (if applicable), your maid of honor has your dress (again, if applicable) so all you have to worry about is each other.

6 - Leftover food and flowers.
If you have left over food, or flowers ask if they can be taken to a soup kitchen, instead of leaving it for the staff. They may have done a good job, but I think someone who has less than you, would appreciate it more. You may want to check with your hotel-catering manager when you make arrangements to see if they can do this or if you have to make the arrangements with an outside agency. Hey, it’s a good thing to do and will start your life together with good karma.

7 – Here’s to you!
Those toasting glasses you picked out especially for this day, all the gifts that people may have brought to the wedding, wedding ca-ching…make sure someone you trust (maybe your parents) see that all of it is are safe and taken until you return from your honeymoon.

Finally,
8 – Remember the moments that matter.
Make sure that you take a moment to step back and look at your family and friends at your reception. They are having a good time and when they say the day goes by in the blink of an eye, they mean it. So have a moment to enjoy it.

Until next time...

Backyard weddings take timing, planning and bug spray

Naturally beautiful backyard

Who says that weddings have to be in a church, or a reception in a fancy hall? In this economy unique and less expensive weddings are taking place in backyards across the country - maybe even this Memorial Day weekend. I know, not everyone has a Hampton spread, or even a house in N.J .where you can pitch a tent, but for those of you that do, this is for you.

• First of all take a look at your yard and figure out how much space you have and what kind of tent you need. OH…keep in mind, if you do decide to have an outdoor wedding in a tent, you may not want to have a ball gown. Yes I know, we keep going back to the dress but ,you can’t have a big-ol’ hoop skirt walking down a small isle. You’ll take out all your guests sitting on the end of the row.

• Once you have picked out your tent design, decide what you are going to have in it – this mean you may need to have a landscaper fill-in uneven ground, possibly plant new flowers. Where is your isle, minister or Huppah going to be? Where will your bridal party stand or sit?

• Plan which parts of the tent will be for dancing and which part for the ceremony. If you don’t have an extra-wide space, then see if your caterer will breakdown the ceremony chairs and move in tables for dinner and space for dancing.

• Where are you going to have food, bar, DJ/Band cake?

• Make sure that the week before your wedding the landscaper does a through clean up.

• The day or two before, anything that isn’t wedding related move it into the garage.

• The day of – well I hope the sun is shining and have someone in your bridal party – a groomsman perhaps – put out the sign that says 'Starr and Joe’s' wedding to direct your guests.

• The bottom line is you won’t have any control over the weather, just do your best to prepare in case it should rain. Insects – plan for some bug repellant to keep them at bay.

• When you’re speaking with the caterer or rental-company, make sure you check these requests off your list:

• Tables, chairs, plates, flatware, glasses, table linens, a dance floor, containers to keep food hot and bugs out, speakers, out-door lights, portable restrooms, extra ice, plates and will they do a final clean-up at the end of the night so you don’t have to.

Decorate your tent in your colors and designs. You can make it as beautiful, if not more so than any hotel or other venue. So take a breath, relax and enjoy. It's your day.

Until next time, I wish you a very happy, safe and bug-free Memorial Day. OH, if you see a service man/woman walking around this weekend (or anytime) tell them "Thank You" for doing what they do.

Merging customs, traditions and lives

The toasts. The bouquet toss. The dreaded Electric Slide. These are rituals that, for better or worse, you can expect at a typical wedding. But what if you wanted to blend your cultures and traditions?? Here are more cultures and traditions that you can incorporate into your wedding to personalize it and add a little 'international flair' to it.

If your family is from France…
Having a special cup for your toast is a wonderful tradition. Here many couples drink from an engraved two-handled coupe de marriage cup for the reception toast. The cup is then passed from generation to generation.

If your family is from Japan…
Japanese couples officially become husband and wife after taking three sips of sake from the same cup. This is known as ‘san-san-kudo’ and has long symbolized the bond between the couple and the spiritual world.

If your family is from Poland…
This tradition might have added ‘benefit’ during this economic crisis. It is a custom that guests pin money to the dancing bride and groom to help them out financially build a new life together.

If your family is from Taiwan…
On the morning of the wedding, the groom and his family goes to the brides’ house. Before he looks at her, he kneels in front of her parents and promised that he will take care of her. I think that when a man asks permission he is doing the same thing, just with out kneeling…then again, maybe the kneeling wouldn’t hurt.

So no matter what your custom or culture, there is a rich history you can pull some traditions. Likewise, if there is a culture/customs that you like, incorporate it in your ceremony anyway. Tell me what you're doing - bridalease@gmail.com

Happy Earth Day couples...

Happy Earth Day to everyone. I’ve been having a wonderful time researching, reading about, and meeting with several of the vendors I’m going to highlight today. If you have a vendor that you are using and/or if there is a product that you are curious about, ask me. I have no problem doing the research for you, and then providing you with the answers.

Put a ring on it…

While diamonds are considered ‘a girls best friend’, there are tons of options that you should consider. First of all, don’t use diamonds that have been mined in unstable regions of Africa. You don’t want to wear something where the mines are in conflict and cause flooding, water pollution and even the deaths of the miners. For amazing rings you can wear, or ‘re-use’ jewelry/stones from family jewelry to create a new look, check out a company like GreenKarat (www.greenkarat.com). You want the 'bling', then look into different materials like CZ (www.greenearthjewlerly.com), or a wonderful diamond look alike Moissanite (www.moissanite.com). If none of these options tickle your fancy, you can always go north, to Canada. There you can find Canadian Diamonds (did you know they had their own diamonds?) that are safely mined and conflict-free (www.canadianarticdiamond.com).

Lookin’ good…

No matter if it’s a unique design or vintage, I’m sure you’re looking for something that will allow you to shine as brightly as the stars on your wedding day. Finding a designer that uses natural cotton, or silk that is unprocessed can be…well a process. These designers do amazing work, and I'll have full interviews with a few of them soon.

Finding exquisite workmanship and luxurious blends, dresses made with natural fabrics by the Cotton Bride (www.thecottonbride.com) reflect the romance and you may be looking for. Adele Wechsler’s (www.adelewechsler.com/latest/collections.html) gowns (see the picture to the left) create mystery by using innovative sheer overlays and softened edges. Hidden, unexpected organic elements, like the exotic hibiscus, the orchid or delicate pansies and lilies appear as embroidered applications and handcrafted flowers. She also use 'peace and vegan silks', which are amazing!!

If you want to really create a feeling of good will and possibly help someone else in need, why not donate your dress after your wedding? These are just a few organizations that you can consider: The Bridal Garden (www.bridalgarden.org), Brides Against Breast Cancer (www.makingmmories.org), or The I Do Foundation (www.idofoundation.org). You can also use the “I Do” foundation to create a Charity Registry along with your Gift Registry to raise donations without giving up the new toaster oven.

My best advice for the grooms – wear a dark suit and pass on the tux if you wish. If you really want to wear something other than what you own, you know to ‘kick it up a notch’, then you too can rent a suit (trust me you can) or you can go vintage. We'll talk more about alternatives for you soon.

All the other stuff…

We all know that green is the new black, so maybe Facebook, Tweeter, and evite (www.evite.com) are the new ways to share the news with family and friends. Evite has even posted on their site that they, in partnership with BRAVO will donate $1 to the National Audubon Society for each invite sent. I do think that your grandparents will want to have the paper version, so maybe you can save money by ordering invitations for the immediate family and go virtual with everyone else. Hmmm, that’s a thought.

Blogging on your own wedding page, will already have the information and some sites have a RSVP link, so you can track your replies there. The day of your wedding, you can Skype (www.skype.com) or webcast it (ok so you need some real video equipment) for family that can’t attend so they can be a part of the party (well, sort of).

Food should be locally grown where possible, and instead of a lot of flowers, use candles (preferably soy). Instead of giving take-a-way parting gifts, why not do a donation in their honor instead. If you love animals – donate to the ASPCA (www.aspca.org); you feel strongly about cancer – the American Cancer Society (www.cancer.org) among others would be more than happy to receive your donation.

There is so much more I’m going to be sharing with you in the upcoming weeks. I can hardly wait. Until then, I wish you and mother-earth a wonderful day today and always.

Your Bridal Fairy Godmother.

Grooms, take your number one girl out - that's MOM in case you were wondering

Guys, I want you to do something for me. This week, make a date with the number one girl in your life. Nope…not the future Mrs., the original Mrs. in your life – your mom. Now I’m sure I’m getting mixed reaction here. Trust me, if you do this, you will create a memory that she will hold as dear as the first time she held you in her arms.

Lunch or dinner, maybe a movie, or even a burger and a beer; just some time with her – just the two of you during your engagement. Sometimes I think it’s you the grooms, as well as the MOG (mother of the groom) that may feel a bit left out. All the fuss seems to be around the bride, and that’s fine. More than that, if you have a relationship with your mom (no matter if it’s your mom, grandmother, step-mother, foster mother or other mother-figure) she sees the man that you are, but her heart see the little boy you were.

Recently, I had an opportunity to spend time with my own family. They are a good crew and we are a very close family. We have as much fun around the dinner table as we do watching a movie or the basketball game. I watch the way my own father dotes on me, and my mom dotes on my brother. It’s both funny and sweet. I know that my brother and I both try to spend ‘alone time’ with our respective parent (me – a total daddy’s girl…yes love mom tons too, but dad and I are both just silly together - we play phone tag during the NBA playoffs and Dancing with the Stars). It got me thinking about being a parent and what my own expectations will someday be.

I don’t have a child…yet…but I’m sure of one thing. There is an enigmatic relationship between mother and son. Yes father and daughter too, but that’s another article. You may not realize it and no matter how much your mom likes, dare I say loves your fiancée, she is quickly having to come to terms with the fact that she won’t be your number one girl anymore. It’s a time with a lot going on and your mom may feel a bit left out. Even more so once you are pronounced, husband and wife.

If you think I’m kidding, tell your mom you want to have a date with her, and watch her face light up. A mom won’t necessarily tell you this is how she feels – so I will. That’s my job right?

You are her son, her pride and joy. No matter if you are first born or the 19th child she has. You are the one that has given her both joy and frustration. She wouldn't change a thing, so trust me on your wedding day, she will have feelings as mixed as the father of the bride. She gave you life, helped shape you into the man you are and while she knows you love her, why not take some time to show her - now. Spend a day – just the two of you. Focus on her, do something, anything or nothing special at all. Make this your own special “Mother’s Day”, and maybe you can make it your own yearly ritual.

I want you to remember, you may one day be a dad…and won’t you want that one last ‘special’ day just you and your little girl? Creating a day for your mom when she isn’t expecting it ,will be something that she will forever hold close to her heart. After all you are that to her…her pride and joy, her heart.

Love to you,
Your Bridal Fairy-Godmother.

The ‘New Rules of Registering’ - at Bloomingdales

I’ve mentioned a few places where you can and/or should consider having your bridal registry. Today, I want to add to the list. While you may know that large stores have registered, Bloomingdale’s Directory of Registry Joanna Kartalis wants you to know why she would love to have you experience ‘the new rules of registering’.

Joanna I know you are in one of the busiest times of the year at the store and especially at the registry, so thank you for your time. Ok, let’s get straight to it. What are the 'hot pieces' that people are putting on their registry this year and what do you think they can pass on?

The ‘New Rules of Registering’ means there are no essentials! This is your chance to design your home to be a reflection of your style as a couple.

More and more, we are seeing couples mixing and matching their table settings. Gone are the days of using one formal place setting every time you set your table. The New Rules of the Registry is all about breaking the old rules and creating a table that reflects your own style and the way you entertain. Change the look of your china for each type of event by using a different charger or colorful accent plates.

• Decorative pieces like vases and bowls accessorize your furniture, like jewelry does for your wardrobe. Lighting like votives, candlesticks, pillar candles and hurricanes truly pull the look together and set the mood whether you're entertaining or in for a cozy night at home.
• If you love family photos, register for a selection of frames that are both interesting and work with your decor.
• Remember that your guests will want to give you items that you love, so register for a variety of price points so that your guests have lots to choose from!
• Couples today are different than their parents – many are more mature and established in their careers and/or lifestyles when they wed. Others are just starting out and need the basics. The important thing is that the couple chooses gifts that will work for THEIR lifestyle.

The registry is about more than the wedding bliss – it’s about accumulating the things that will help you live the good life – everyday.

What are busiest times of the year that you see the spike in bridal registries?

You’re right Lisa, this is a very busy time at the registry. We find that there is a spike right after the holidays - when engagements are most common. We see our biggest volume in January, February and March. June and September are also popular months.

So when and what should they register for?

Couples should register as soon as they get engaged. Many friends and family members will want to start congratulating the couple even before they have announced any specific dates, and they want to be sure that they have the ability to make your gift something special, something you'll always remember, something you truly want!!

Bloomies is more then just a registry, what makes you so special?

Bloomingdale’s is just as excited about your registry as you are! Each couple has their own Registry Consultant, who is like a personal shopper for their home. Our consultants will make sure your experience is stress free and fun, and will help you navigate through the wide assortment of the most fashionable trends in home fashions – from tabletop and house wares to bedding and luggage. You’ll also get exclusive invitations to lots of social events at our stores and online access to manage and update your registry, as well as try out different tabletop combinations via our exclusive online Set Your Table Tool.

And when you’ve calmed down from the excitement of your big day, you can complete your Registry with us by enjoying 10% off any item you did not receive (this special is valid for six months)!

Anything else you want the readers to know about Bloomingdale’s and the people that work there.

The best advice I can give is to make sure you partner with your Registry Consultant. They are your biggest ally and tour guide through this exciting process. Bloomingdale’s Registry Consultants will help you select and combine merchandise in a way that is unique to you – that will fit the way that you live and entertain.

If you are looking to attend another bridal event, Bloomingdales is having a Wedding Party event at 59th Street is April 30, 6-8pm in the registry on the 6th floor. This event is featuring the editor in chief of Brides.com, Michelle Preli, cakes from Ron Ben-Israel, hors d'oeuvres by Great Performances and Staffing 911, plus florals by Magnolia Flowers and Events and music by the Charles Soule Band. If you want to attend, please reply by April 27 to 212-705-3340.

I'll be there and looking for you.

Until next time...

For more info: Bloomingdale's, Inc. 1000 Third Avenue - 6th Floor 212.705.2000
http://bloomingdales.weddingchannel.com/catalog/fds/blmDivisionalHome.action

Bloomingdale's Bridal Completion Program offers the option to purchase the remaining items on your registry at 10% off after your wedding.

Merging customs, traditions and lives

You have your budget completed, location confirmed and now the fun of planning what kind of day you’re going to have truly begins. While I’ll share more customs with you as we move forward, here are a few of my favorites. Remember to bring a bit of your own rich family past to your new family future.

If your family is from the Caribbean…
A rich, black rum cake is in your future. Some call it rum cake others a black cake because of it’s shape, deep color and density. Fruits soaked in rum for weeks before it’s baked with dark brown sugar, butter and most of all…love. The bridal recipe is one that is often passed from generation to generation, but if you want small ones to give as gifts, Tortuga Rum Co., have some of the best cakes around. http://www.tortugarumcakes.com/

If your family is from England…
Traditionally your entire bridal party walks together to the church with your flower girl tossing flowers along your path to ensure a life filled with happiness and laden wth flowers. If you can’t walk to the church, how about having your entire family walking you down the isle. It truly can be a special moment, as well as helping to keep your dad’s ‘stiff upper lip.’

If your family is from Greece…
You both are crowned with stefana, which is a wreath of flowers made of flowers tied together with flowers. The crown of flowers is to resemble those worn by royalty and the sanctity of marriage by the church. To add sweetness to the day, the bride carries a lump of sugar in her glove on the wedding day. While I know some of you may not wear gloves or have sweaty palms…you may want to just use a sugar packet.

If your family is from Morocco…
Moroccan weddings are a musical event from start to finish, with lots of singing and dancing. Men usually wear one of their best suits. Women and female friends of bride have a party where the bride performs a sort of a “milk bath” to "purify" her before her wedding day. They also help her dress in a richly decorated wedding kaftan (usually white), adorn her with heavy jewelry, and beautify and darken her eyes with kohl.

If your family is from Mexico…
There will be a very large rosary, called a lasso, used by the priest to tie the hands of the bride and groom as they recite their vows. The thought is to show the union and protection of their marriage.

So no matter what your custom or culture, there is a rich history from which you can pull traditions into your wedding day.

Registering with Michael C. Fina (part 2)

There was just so much good information that was shared during our meeting, here is part II of my interview with Meryl Gold and Teegan Conti of Michael C. Fina.Can you give me some advice on when they should register?

It is best to register before any wedding-related parties or happenings, and definitely before your engagement party. Often, we see a bride right after the ring goes on the finger! And hopefully for the woman’s sake, that was a Michael C. Fina ring.

When registering, it is important to select pieces for your “todays” as well as your “tomorrows.” You may think you don’t need something now, but 5 years down the line when you are hosting your first family get together, you’ll need it! It is in your best interest to register now while people want to get you a special token to commemorate the start of your life together as husband and wife.

You mentioned Michael C. Fina rings – if the groom didn’t pick the engagement ring from you, can you help them pick out their wedding band? I mean you have an amazing selection here.

Absolutely, we also offer unparalleled service and selection when it comes to engagement rings and wedding bands. Our new designer Ring Boutique features more than 1,000 rings from over 25 of the world’s leading designers. We have great people here who will work with the couple to find the rings that they will both love for a lifetime.

Michael C. Fina is more then just a registry, what makes you so special?

We truly pride ourselves on our knowledge, concierge-level service, attention to detail, and our ability to understand who the couple truly is. We build lifelong relationships with our customers everyday, and create a memorable experience for them that will hopefully last a lifetime.

At Michel C. Fina we are more than tableware, we also offer our clients a custom invitation and stationary department, engagement rings, wedding bands, couture & fine jewelry pieces, great giftware, and stunning art glass.

Is there anything else you want the readers to know about MCF and the people that work there?

A Michael C. Fina registry consultant is passionate about creating a style that is unique to the individual. It's not just a table or china out of a box—it's a reflection of who you are, your personality, and the memories these pieces will bring to you and your family as you use them to celebrate all life’s milestones as well as everyday occasions. We are a family business and we treat everyone that walks through our doors like family.

So there you have it. No matter which store, or shop you choose to begin your registry, this is great information for you to have. Of course, I will be getting the 'scoop' from other registries and soon to help you, I'll even post a list of stores in NYC that will allow you to register. Just want to take the questions out of 'where can I register'.

Until next time...

For more info: Michael C. Fina is located at 545 Fifth Avenue, at the corner of 45th Street. You can reach the store directly by calling 1-800-288-3462.

Registering with Michael C. Fina (part 1)

Today you're really lucky to have both Meryl Gold and Teegan Conti of Michael C. Fina to share their insight on bridal registries and what makes their registry process so unique. Michael C. Fina IS a fun store.

First I want to thank you both for taking the time to meet with me. I know this is a busy time of the year for you. But you know what, the fact that you are willing to give me a few minutes shows that you are dedicated to making this a stress-free time for the bride. So on behalf of my brides and grooms, I thank you.

So what are the 'hot pieces' that people are putting on their registry this year and what can couples 'pass' on?

What’s “hot” is shots of color like fuchsia & shades of green from grass to lime in glassware, salad plates or chargers. These are some fun colors that move a bit away from the traditional ones their parents registered for. We think that couples want to put some fun on their table. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t looking at traditional patterns though; they are doing a bit of both and embracing a mix between the two.

As far as what couples can “pass” on, it’s the cheap kitchen gadgets like peelers, spatulas and colanders. Why register for things you'll go out and buy yourself?
If they are looking for less expensive things to add for showers, parties, etc., I would suggest candlesticks, picture frames or other decorative items for the home.

What are busiest times of the year that you see a spike in bridal registries?

Really, we see brides at all times of the year. It all depends on when they plan to get married and when they are having their engagement party.

I know you're taking over Fortunoff's registry and offering an additional 15% completion, why are you doing this?

We aren’t taking over Fortunoff’s registry per se as we have entered no agreements with Fortunoff, but we are getting the word out to registered brides and brides-to-be that Michael C. Fina is the ultimate source for your bridal registry. With the largest selection of tableware on the East Coast and our knowledgeable and accommodating consultants committed to creating your dream registry, every bride is sure to fall in love with Michael C. Fina.

All brides that register at Michael C. Fina get a 15% completion discount. For Fortunoff brides who convert their registry to a Michael C. Fina registry, we are giving them a gift valued at $250.

Monday, we'll continue our conversation with Meryl and Teegan about the registry at, Michael C. Fina. Tomorrow, it's all about the grooms.

Until then...

For more info: Michael C. Fina is located at 545 Fifth Avenue, at the corner of 45th Street. You can reach the store directly by calling 1-800-288-3462.

Happy St. Patrick’s Day to you my lovely brides and grooms.

Today, let’s talk about traditions. Maybe if you are of Irish heritage you want to incorporate some of these in your special day.

Did you know that in Ireland, an Irish bride's wedding ring is called a Claddagh. It’s the ring that has the heart, held by two hands with the heart topped by a crown. The hands represent faith, the crown symbolizes honor, and the heart signifies love. The ring’s motto is: “Let love and friendship reign.”

An old Irish tradition calls for the wedding couple to walk to the church together before exchanging their wedding vows. As they walk down the main street to the chapel, onlookers would not only throw rice to bless the marriage, but larger items as well, such as pots and pans. Wow…that would hurt.

The traditional Irish bride often wears a blue wedding dress, rather than a white dress. Blue symbolized purity in ancient times and only in 1499 did a white wedding dress begin to symbolize virginity and purity. I wonder if this is where we got the ‘something blue’? hmmmm

English lavender, an ancient symbol of love, loyalty, devotion and even luck is often mixed with the bride’s wedding flowers to help insure a happy and long-lasting union.

Finally, it is a symbol of luck is to be married on St. Patrick's Day and considered the luckiest wedding anniversary date in Ireland. So if you want a ‘bit of Irish luck today’ why don’t you and your future partner, promise that today will be the first day of your lives. We can all use a bit of luck…just look out for the flying pots and pans.

Until next time I wish you smiling Irish eyes...